„Vertu dama, sögðu þeir“ Sylvía Rut Sigfúsdóttir skrifar 25. febrúar 2020 12:00 Cynthia Nixon flytur í myndbandinu hluta af textanum Be A Lady They Said frá 2017 eftir Camille Rainville. Skjáskot Síðustu daga hefur myndbandið Be a Lady They Said, farið eins og eldur í sinu um samfélagsmiðla. Myndbandið sem var fyrst birt af Girls. Girls. Girls. Magazine sýnir hvernig það er að vera kona í nútímasamfélagi. Alla daga dynja yfir konur skilaboð um það hvernig þær eigi eða eigi ekki að vera. Í myndbandinu flytur leikkonan Cynthia Nixon hluta af textanum Be A Lady They Said frá 2017 eftir Camille Rainville. Textann í heild sinni má finna hér neðar í fréttinni. Leikstjóri myndbandsins er Paul McLean, ljósmyndarinn Claire Rothstein framleiddi og tónlistin er eftir Louis Souyave. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Girls. Girls. Girls. Magazine (@girls.girls.girls.magazine) on Feb 22, 2020 at 3:59pm PST Be a lady they said. Your skirt is too short. Your shirt is too low. Your pants are too tight. Don’t show so much skin. Don’t show your thighs. Don’t show your breasts. Don’t show your midriff. Don’t show your cleavage. Don’t show your underwear. Don’t show your shoulders. Cover up. Leave something to the imagination. Dress modestly. Don’t be a temptress. Men can’t control themselves. Men have needs. You look frumpy. Loosen up. Show some skin. Look sexy. Look hot. Don’t be so provocative. You’re asking for it. Wear black. Wear heels. You’re too dressed up. You’re too dressed down. Don’t wear those sweatpants; you look like you’ve let yourself go. Be a lady they said. Don’t be too fat. Don’t be too thin. Don’t be too large. Don’t be too small. Eat up. Slim down. Stop eating so much. Don’t eat too fast. Order a salad. Don’t eat carbs. Skip dessert. You need to lose weight. Fit into that dress. Go on a diet. Watch what you eat. Eat celery. Chew gum. Drink lots of water. You have to fit into those jeans. God, you look like a skeleton. Why don’t you just eat? You look emaciated. You look sick. Eat a burger. Men like women with some meat on their bones. Be small. Be light. Be little. Be petite. Be feminine. Be a size zero. Be a double zero. Be nothing. Be less than nothing. Be a lady they said. Remove your body hair. Shave your legs. Shave your armpits. Shave your bikini line. Wax your face. Wax your arms. Wax your eyebrows. Get rid of your mustache. Bleach this. Bleach that. Lighten your skin. Tan your skin. Eradicate your scars. Cover your stretch marks. Tighten your abs. Plump your lips. Botox your wrinkles. Lift your face. Tuck your tummy. Thin your thighs. Tone your calves. Perk up your boobs. Look natural. Be yourself. Be genuine. Be confident. You’re trying too hard. You look overdone. Men don’t like girls who try too hard. Be a lady they said. Wear makeup. Prime your face. Conceal your blemishes. Contour your nose. Highlight your cheekbones. Line your lids. Fill in your brows. Lengthen your lashes. Color your lips. Powder, blush, bronze, highlight. Your hair is too short. Your hair is too long. Your ends are split. Highlight your hair. Your roots are showing. Dye your hair. Not blue, that looks unnatural. You’re going grey. You look so old. Look young. Look youthful. Look ageless. Don’t get old. Women don’t get old. Old is ugly. Men don’t like ugly. Be a lady they said. Save yourself. Be pure. Be virginal. Don’t talk about sex. Don’t flirt. Don’t be a skank. Don’t be a whore. Don’t sleep around. Don’t lose your dignity. Don’t have sex with too many men. Don’t give yourself away. Men don’t like sluts. Don’t be a prude. Don’t be so up tight. Have a little fun. Smile more. Pleasure men. Be experienced. Be sexual. Be innocent. Be dirty. Be virginal. Be sexy. Be the cool girl. Don’t be like the other girls. Be a lady they said. Don’t talk too loud. Don’t talk too much. Don’t take up space. Don’t sit like that. Don’t stand like that. Don’t be intimidating. Why are you so miserable? Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be so bossy. Don’t be assertive. Don’t overact. Don’t be so emotional. Don’t cry. Don’t yell. Don’t swear. Be passive. Be obedient. Endure the pain. Be pleasing. Don’t complain. Let him down easy. Boost his ego. Make him fall for you. Men want what they can’t have. Don’t give yourself away. Make him work for it. Men love the chase. Fold his clothes. Cook his dinner. Keep him happy. That’s a woman’s job. You’ll make a good wife some day. Take his last name. You hyphenated your name? Crazy feminist. Give him children. You don’t want children? You will some day. You’ll change your mind. Be a lady they said. Don’t get raped. Protect yourself. Don’t drink too much. Don’t walk alone. Don’t go out too late. Don’t dress like that. Don’t show too much. Don’t get drunk. Don’t leave your drink. Have a buddy. Walk where it is well lit. Stay in the safe neighborhoods. Tell someone where you’re going. Bring pepper spray. Buy a rape whistle. Hold your keys like a weapon. Take a self-defense course. Check your trunk. Lock your doors. Don’t go out alone. Don’t make eye contact. Don’t bat your eyelashes. Don’t look easy. Don’t attract attention. Don’t work late. Don’t crack dirty jokes. Don’t smile at strangers. Don’t go out at night. Don’t trust anyone. Don’t say yes. Don’t say no. Just “be a lady” they said. -Camille Rainville, Writings of a Furious Woman Samfélagsmiðlar Mest lesið Björgvin Franz kaupir 36 fermetra íbúð í miðbænum Lífið Furðuleg forréttindablinda Gagnrýni Sveinn Andri og María Sigrún mættu á frumsýninguna Lífið Innlit: „Ég bý í draumahúsinu“ Lífið „Sextán ára stelpa hefur lítið að gera við svona háa upphæð“ Lífið Lína orðin að „peningasjúkum TikTok-trúði“ eða sjálfsögð markaðssetning? Menning Tilnefningar fyrir árið 2024 birtar Bíó og sjónvarp Hiti í Hringekjunni Tíska og hönnun Sýna(r)brjóstin, sýna stuðning Lífið Þau eru tilnefnd til Sjónvarpsverðlaunanna fyrir árið 2023 Bíó og sjónvarp Fleiri fréttir Heitasta listapar landsins á djamminu „Er ekki hrædd við að vera ég sjálf“ Sveinn Andri og María Sigrún mættu á frumsýninguna „Sextán ára stelpa hefur lítið að gera við svona háa upphæð“ Sýna(r)brjóstin, sýna stuðning Brjánn ávarpaði alla áhorfendur leiksins rétt fyrir upphafsflautið Innlit í þriggja hæða veitingastaðinn Bryggjuhúsið sem er í húsi frá 1863 Björgvin Franz kaupir 36 fermetra íbúð í miðbænum Innlit: „Ég bý í draumahúsinu“ „Gerði grín að líkamanum mínum og sagði að ég ætti að tala minna“ Óttast að hann sé fyrsta fórnarlamb flugunnar Fögnuðu fallegri og óvæntri vináttu Svikarar höfðu fjórar milljónir af Aroni Can „Setti sjálfa mig í fyrsta sæti og hef aldrei verið hamingjusamari“ Hvetur hávaxnar stelpur til að vera stoltar af hæð sinni Stjörnulífið: „Bið ekki um meira“ „Við María eigum rosalega fallegt samband og erum þakklát hvort fyrir annað“ Nóa-Siríus fjölskyldan fyrrverandi selur súkkulaðihöll Fær ógeðistilfinningu eftir fullnægingu Hugleiki Dagssyni hent út af Facebook Áhrifavaldur greiddi sextán milljónir fyrir auglýsingar á samfélagsmiðlum: „Hvar eru allir peningarnir?” Íslenska stelpan sem eltir drauminn í Los Angeles Sam Rivers úr Limp Bizkit látinn Krakkatían: IKEA-geitin, októberfest og reikistjarna Tveir skiptu með sér sjöfalda pottinum Dýri kveður Íþróttaálfinn eftir tuttugu ár Fjögur hundruð milljónir króna í skjalatösku í Hveragerði Fjórir á lista Páls hættir við „Vinir mínir settu stöðugt út á mig og niðurlægðu mig“ Mikil og góð stemning á uppskeruhátíð Skaftárhrepps Sjá meira
Síðustu daga hefur myndbandið Be a Lady They Said, farið eins og eldur í sinu um samfélagsmiðla. Myndbandið sem var fyrst birt af Girls. Girls. Girls. Magazine sýnir hvernig það er að vera kona í nútímasamfélagi. Alla daga dynja yfir konur skilaboð um það hvernig þær eigi eða eigi ekki að vera. Í myndbandinu flytur leikkonan Cynthia Nixon hluta af textanum Be A Lady They Said frá 2017 eftir Camille Rainville. Textann í heild sinni má finna hér neðar í fréttinni. Leikstjóri myndbandsins er Paul McLean, ljósmyndarinn Claire Rothstein framleiddi og tónlistin er eftir Louis Souyave. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Girls. Girls. Girls. Magazine (@girls.girls.girls.magazine) on Feb 22, 2020 at 3:59pm PST Be a lady they said. Your skirt is too short. Your shirt is too low. Your pants are too tight. Don’t show so much skin. Don’t show your thighs. Don’t show your breasts. Don’t show your midriff. Don’t show your cleavage. Don’t show your underwear. Don’t show your shoulders. Cover up. Leave something to the imagination. Dress modestly. Don’t be a temptress. Men can’t control themselves. Men have needs. You look frumpy. Loosen up. Show some skin. Look sexy. Look hot. Don’t be so provocative. You’re asking for it. Wear black. Wear heels. You’re too dressed up. You’re too dressed down. Don’t wear those sweatpants; you look like you’ve let yourself go. Be a lady they said. Don’t be too fat. Don’t be too thin. Don’t be too large. Don’t be too small. Eat up. Slim down. Stop eating so much. Don’t eat too fast. Order a salad. Don’t eat carbs. Skip dessert. You need to lose weight. Fit into that dress. Go on a diet. Watch what you eat. Eat celery. Chew gum. Drink lots of water. You have to fit into those jeans. God, you look like a skeleton. Why don’t you just eat? You look emaciated. You look sick. Eat a burger. Men like women with some meat on their bones. Be small. Be light. Be little. Be petite. Be feminine. Be a size zero. Be a double zero. Be nothing. Be less than nothing. Be a lady they said. Remove your body hair. Shave your legs. Shave your armpits. Shave your bikini line. Wax your face. Wax your arms. Wax your eyebrows. Get rid of your mustache. Bleach this. Bleach that. Lighten your skin. Tan your skin. Eradicate your scars. Cover your stretch marks. Tighten your abs. Plump your lips. Botox your wrinkles. Lift your face. Tuck your tummy. Thin your thighs. Tone your calves. Perk up your boobs. Look natural. Be yourself. Be genuine. Be confident. You’re trying too hard. You look overdone. Men don’t like girls who try too hard. Be a lady they said. Wear makeup. Prime your face. Conceal your blemishes. Contour your nose. Highlight your cheekbones. Line your lids. Fill in your brows. Lengthen your lashes. Color your lips. Powder, blush, bronze, highlight. Your hair is too short. Your hair is too long. Your ends are split. Highlight your hair. Your roots are showing. Dye your hair. Not blue, that looks unnatural. You’re going grey. You look so old. Look young. Look youthful. Look ageless. Don’t get old. Women don’t get old. Old is ugly. Men don’t like ugly. Be a lady they said. Save yourself. Be pure. Be virginal. Don’t talk about sex. Don’t flirt. Don’t be a skank. Don’t be a whore. Don’t sleep around. Don’t lose your dignity. Don’t have sex with too many men. Don’t give yourself away. Men don’t like sluts. Don’t be a prude. Don’t be so up tight. Have a little fun. Smile more. Pleasure men. Be experienced. Be sexual. Be innocent. Be dirty. Be virginal. Be sexy. Be the cool girl. Don’t be like the other girls. Be a lady they said. Don’t talk too loud. Don’t talk too much. Don’t take up space. Don’t sit like that. Don’t stand like that. Don’t be intimidating. Why are you so miserable? Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be so bossy. Don’t be assertive. Don’t overact. Don’t be so emotional. Don’t cry. Don’t yell. Don’t swear. Be passive. Be obedient. Endure the pain. Be pleasing. Don’t complain. Let him down easy. Boost his ego. Make him fall for you. Men want what they can’t have. Don’t give yourself away. Make him work for it. Men love the chase. Fold his clothes. Cook his dinner. Keep him happy. That’s a woman’s job. You’ll make a good wife some day. Take his last name. You hyphenated your name? Crazy feminist. Give him children. You don’t want children? You will some day. You’ll change your mind. Be a lady they said. Don’t get raped. Protect yourself. Don’t drink too much. Don’t walk alone. Don’t go out too late. Don’t dress like that. Don’t show too much. Don’t get drunk. Don’t leave your drink. Have a buddy. Walk where it is well lit. Stay in the safe neighborhoods. Tell someone where you’re going. Bring pepper spray. Buy a rape whistle. Hold your keys like a weapon. Take a self-defense course. Check your trunk. Lock your doors. Don’t go out alone. Don’t make eye contact. Don’t bat your eyelashes. Don’t look easy. Don’t attract attention. Don’t work late. Don’t crack dirty jokes. Don’t smile at strangers. Don’t go out at night. Don’t trust anyone. Don’t say yes. Don’t say no. Just “be a lady” they said. -Camille Rainville, Writings of a Furious Woman
Samfélagsmiðlar Mest lesið Björgvin Franz kaupir 36 fermetra íbúð í miðbænum Lífið Furðuleg forréttindablinda Gagnrýni Sveinn Andri og María Sigrún mættu á frumsýninguna Lífið Innlit: „Ég bý í draumahúsinu“ Lífið „Sextán ára stelpa hefur lítið að gera við svona háa upphæð“ Lífið Lína orðin að „peningasjúkum TikTok-trúði“ eða sjálfsögð markaðssetning? Menning Tilnefningar fyrir árið 2024 birtar Bíó og sjónvarp Hiti í Hringekjunni Tíska og hönnun Sýna(r)brjóstin, sýna stuðning Lífið Þau eru tilnefnd til Sjónvarpsverðlaunanna fyrir árið 2023 Bíó og sjónvarp Fleiri fréttir Heitasta listapar landsins á djamminu „Er ekki hrædd við að vera ég sjálf“ Sveinn Andri og María Sigrún mættu á frumsýninguna „Sextán ára stelpa hefur lítið að gera við svona háa upphæð“ Sýna(r)brjóstin, sýna stuðning Brjánn ávarpaði alla áhorfendur leiksins rétt fyrir upphafsflautið Innlit í þriggja hæða veitingastaðinn Bryggjuhúsið sem er í húsi frá 1863 Björgvin Franz kaupir 36 fermetra íbúð í miðbænum Innlit: „Ég bý í draumahúsinu“ „Gerði grín að líkamanum mínum og sagði að ég ætti að tala minna“ Óttast að hann sé fyrsta fórnarlamb flugunnar Fögnuðu fallegri og óvæntri vináttu Svikarar höfðu fjórar milljónir af Aroni Can „Setti sjálfa mig í fyrsta sæti og hef aldrei verið hamingjusamari“ Hvetur hávaxnar stelpur til að vera stoltar af hæð sinni Stjörnulífið: „Bið ekki um meira“ „Við María eigum rosalega fallegt samband og erum þakklát hvort fyrir annað“ Nóa-Siríus fjölskyldan fyrrverandi selur súkkulaðihöll Fær ógeðistilfinningu eftir fullnægingu Hugleiki Dagssyni hent út af Facebook Áhrifavaldur greiddi sextán milljónir fyrir auglýsingar á samfélagsmiðlum: „Hvar eru allir peningarnir?” Íslenska stelpan sem eltir drauminn í Los Angeles Sam Rivers úr Limp Bizkit látinn Krakkatían: IKEA-geitin, októberfest og reikistjarna Tveir skiptu með sér sjöfalda pottinum Dýri kveður Íþróttaálfinn eftir tuttugu ár Fjögur hundruð milljónir króna í skjalatösku í Hveragerði Fjórir á lista Páls hættir við „Vinir mínir settu stöðugt út á mig og niðurlægðu mig“ Mikil og góð stemning á uppskeruhátíð Skaftárhrepps Sjá meira
Áhrifavaldur greiddi sextán milljónir fyrir auglýsingar á samfélagsmiðlum: „Hvar eru allir peningarnir?”